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Topic Started: Apr 22 2006, 06:26 PM (1,119 Views)
realeez
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I never nursed in public and got to 16 months with my 2nd ds. Personally, I would be uncomfortable with it and for those odd times either "escaped" to the car or gave a formula bottle. The most "in public" was on the "it's a small world" ride in disneyworld when it was dark all around! I don't think that is necessarily setting oneself up for failure!
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Apr 25 2006, 09:59 AM

As for my friend, she feels the baby has allergies and collic. He was awake the other night screaming and arching his back for like 12 hours. We use the same pediatrician and he's pretty lax about things. Babies cry.. if they bleed bring them in type of thing.

If the baby has colic, weaning to formula will probably make it worse. However, it sounds like the baby might have reflux (the crying, back arching and frequently wanting to nurse are all symptoms)- which also will most likely get worse with formula!
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yep... chavamom, exactly what I was thinking.

Also another thing- as hard as it is in situations to nurse when family and friends aren't supporting your want to nurse. It is just as hard when people are judging you because your having a hard time and REALLY questioning if you should go to formula. When I first had Zu nothing was going right. The LLL woman came in and honestly I never wanted to nurse again after meeting her (when tev was born I told them to keep the LLL women FAR from me!). I only kept going cause of all the things the Lub. Rebbe said about nursing at that point. It was only when we went to the ped the first time and she was gentle, warm, and NOT JUDGING I was able to settle down and deal with things. It was her non-judging that kept me going. When people told me I was being selfish and such when Tev did wean (despite the fact that I was preg and HE WEANED ALL ON HIS OWN at 13 months) cause honestly I was relieved to be off the TED it just made me mad. It also hurt my feelings towards nursing.

Barbie- tell your friend that the food allergy board at bbc is a wonderful place to go cause they not only are a huge source of information but they will help her through any decision she makes.

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She's looking into reflux as well. It's too bad the dr's aren't really being helpful to her.

She's not a vegetarian, she eats chicken, and various non kosher seafood items. She can't even look at beef or eggs without gagging. Her whole life. She always takes supplements. She's a great parent and I don't think it's fair to say that her future decisions won't be in the child's best interest. Not every mom wants to BF full time. Maybe it is her "lack of balanced" diet that is causing the baby to have issues. She tried adding the dairy back in but that's causing the baby to be uncomfortable. Hence, formula.

She also can't figure out a way to nurse at night and have her dh do it so she can sleep! She can't pump. Not everyone can. I certainly can't get more than an oz out over the course of a full day by pumping!

Anyway.... I'm sorry this thread is getting so controversial. I was just looking for some help for my friend in figuring out a hypoallergenic formula for her baby or what people use when one isn't doing well with milk or soy.

I don't believe looking for alternative solutions makes her a bad person/mother, or that wanting to wean him is bad either. I nursed dd for 15 minutes every 3-4 hours, she's feels like she is doing it constantly and doesn't want to.
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Barbie, I never pumped but got dh to do midnight formula feedings for about a week (after that he had a crazy schedule & couldnt) I would feed dd at 9ish and then head straight to bed, she was "his" until midnight when he'd give her the bottle and then she slept for a few more hours. I got 6-7 hours sometimes. (I wish she'd sleep that well now - she has become an insomniac!)
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zuncompany
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My milk always woke me up. I would say to my husband- tonight its your turn and the second tev or zu let out a yelp my milk came shooting! Boy did I learn quickly that a mommy without REM isn't a very good mommy- you can't see straight let alone fuction.
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Sara, w/ #2 that happened but with #3 I was so exhausted! Just wait and see ;)!
Also, dh kept her downstairs until she fell asleep.
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were your boys sleeping through the night? As much as I HATE Zu's new schedule it will be so nice when the baby comes. I also came to the realization that the first couple of months- its just easier to sleep with the baby so you can sleep and nurse.
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B"H , they are good sleepers overall.

I've been bringing my almost 8 month old into my bed for a bit - she has been such a "horrible" sleeper lately! Last night she slept from 9-11, woke up and was up until 1 am! she would fall asleep but then when i 'd mover her she'd pop up!
then i brought her to my bed and nursed her as i dosed and that's how i got to 6 am. she was up a few times in the middle too!
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I also think that formula would make things worse. It could be that it's just a couple of easily adjustable things in her diet. Could she switch to goat's milk instead of cow's milk? It could make a world of a difference. Also, beans and chickpeas could cause gas. And broccoli.

There is also homeopathic stuff for colic, Hylands brand. They have it at Whole Foods.
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Also, I second the idea of bringing baby to your bed. Makes nighttime nursing much easier.
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I did that too... feed Hallie around 9 and have dh give her one bottle and let me sleep until 3 or whatever. It was great. She slept in the crib only. We threw out the basinett. Hallie never slept with me, and this one can't either. But I have no problem getting up to nurse through the night, if I can get a few hours sleep somehow....
I just spoke to my friend and she feels guilty about quitting BF so she's going to keep trying. We were laughing because she's well endowed and that is why she is uncomfortable nursing out of the house. I'm not quite as well endowded (think matza!) and can nurse anywhere and never had a problem. I'm going there now to help think of something.
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I wasn't trying to make your friend seem to be a bad parent. But I do think that formula won't solve her problem and has a high likelihood of making it worse! It sounds as if she was viewing weaning as her salvation, but it could very likely be 'out of the frying pan, into the fire' iykwim. Glad to hear she is going to try to continue!
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What kind of places does she usually go to? I've gotten pretty creative about finding hideouts to nurse in!

Great that she wants to keep it up!
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She's decided to keep trying to nurse, but will continue to supplement at night. I spent a few hours with him and basically he just wants to eat constantly and moans when he isn't eating. It's like his belly hurts and eating pushes down the food but then he gets too much, so he throws up, and then they start again. The doctor won't check him for reflux just yet. She's tired and frustrated. Changing over to FF is a salvation when your body can start to feel normal again. I'm glad she is sticking to BF, but, I feel for her and see what she means.

She goes out to parks, Target, etc., and has her eye on her 3 year old and needs to chase him around. Not condusive for nursing. When she is home he just hangs onto her.

Barbie

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