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How much do you do before the baby is born?; Or do you leave EVERYTHING for after?
Topic Started: May 8 2006, 07:33 PM (390 Views)
Karapooz
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I would buy some clothes if they were on a REALLY big sale and REALLY cute. I also washed all Zusha's old stuff and layed it out in the drawers, put together bassinet...
Basically the things I wouldn't be able to do afterwards- either too tired, or the item won't be available.
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U Tarzan Me Jane
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I did nothing.....

DH washed all the baby clothes

Washed out the carseat and swing and crib ect. He did all the work after the baby was born! My oldest came into the world with not so much as a sock to call his own! :crazy :rofl
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the only thing I did was the night before the c/s I cooked a bunch of stuff for my freezer and got out my boppy to take with me to the hospital so I could have it to brace my incision if I needed to throw up in recovery (works much better than one of their pillows!). Other than that nothing! We do have our own little tradition that tatty (and now sibs) go out the night before baby comes home and buy a special blankie and coming home outfit for baby from them. I love it and they do too!
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Karapooz
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As if my husband would buy anytrhing. Ha- he doesn't even know where the baby stores are! And I disassembled the bassinet to make it flat for storage and launder the fabric. It's a bit complicated to put back together if you didn't take it apart yourself- even I got a bit mixed up.
And my dh isn't the 'it looks/feels right' type of person. Just erev shabbos he was dressing Gedalya in a 1- piece that looks like a white shirt, gingham navy pantaloons and a navy button- down vest. It's all attached into 1. Well, he put it on BACKWARDS. (The back was all gingham.) How? Don't know.

Don't want to think abt how the bassinet would look if I left it for him!!!

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zuncompany
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:) I think it depends on the dh. Mine is a clothes horse and shops for all our clothes (yes, even mine!). Laundry is his shtick cause of a joke my sister played on him when we were engaged. But certain other things- forget it!!! Gear wise I picked it all out, and from the hospital called the store and had them put it aside for dh to pick up. Also when the kids grow out of a size I wash it all and store in airtight containers that are labeled so all he has to do is bring the correct size out from the closet and we are ready to go. Same with the covers for the swing, carseat, etc... The bassinet is one that goes with our pack-n-play which is always up in the guest room. He just had to attatch the bassinet in and move it in our room.
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Karapooz
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My husband called me in the hospital to ask me what to pack for Zusha for Shabbos. They were going to a friend. I had to give him a virtual tour of the house: "In the tall chest of drawers, top drawer, right side are his undershirts. There are snap-bottom ones and regular ones. Snaps are for outfits and regulars are for PJs. Where are the PJs? Make a 180 degree turn. You will see a dresser. On the left side, 2nd drawer from the top are his PJs. No, on the left side. No, those are my sweaters. HOW MANY TIMES DO YOU HAVE TO DRESS THE KID BEFORE YOU REMEMBER WHERE HIS CLOTHES ARE???"

That type.
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each morning I got a call- Sara, what do I give them to eat, what do I do with them, how do I get them to nap, etc... I think I spent 3/4 of my time in the hospital on the phone giving directions! Oh and my favorite- how do I make corn on the cob??? I was just like huh????????? lol I told him he is the one from indiana! I still don't know why he was making corn on the cob the day after my c/s!
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Mindy
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here in williamsburg we send the children to relatives, so we dont have the problems you do sara :). How are you resting up from the c section? Di dyou go straight home? do you have help with the boys?
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zuncompany
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People are sending food. We have had some HS girls help out a bit but they have end of the school stuff right now and are super busy. Dh got a laptop to work from home some hours and otherwise is taking vacation time/makeing hours later in the year (B"H for flextime) through the upshern (so two weeks). He gets the boys, I get the baby. He was on his own though all last week cause I was at the hospital from tuesday until erev Shabbos. After dh goes back to work I will IY"H have a HS girl come over a bit but otherwise its all me. I think it is less being here in philly cause people are helping and more not having family who really understands and such. My mom would come- I would just have MAJOR PPD from it.
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I had nothing in the house either time! I picked out what I wanted for my daughter, and then my parents and In-Laws got everything, and clothes for her, by the time I was home from the hospital (7 days with her b/c of complications) and then with Yaakov, I knew I was having a boy, but all I had was the car seat from Amira! Again, my parents and in-laws picked everything up. :)
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we got the carseat b/c the hospital stays are so short and didn't have who to borrow from.
after the first, when my mother brought some clothes from my younger brother, i brought to the hospital washed baby clothes to take the baby home in. ds#2 was born right before shabbos and i left motzei shabbos (in july this was like 11 pm) and dd i left after 8 hours so needed clothes.
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U Tarzan Me Jane
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my husband doesn't buy the baby clothes! He washes the old ones, when you three of the same in a row, there is not much shopping involved! My mom buys the layette stuff, and he brings it to the hospital.
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We didn't "over-shop" before the baby, but we did get a few things.

We of course got the carseat. once the baby comes, your DH doesn't have time to run around getting a million things. Better to have this in advance.

We also borrowed a bassinet that we put in the basement. And we bought a couple of neutral-looking clothes (had my mom pick up some things) so the baby would have something to wear home from the hospital.

We bought some diapers too, but silly us, thought size 1-2 would fit a newborn. Even our 8lb baby needed the newborn size diapers for a few weeks, so we wound up buying more after he was born.
B"H, our hospital also sent us home with a lot of nice stuff. I didn't have a bottle in the house, since I was planning on nursing, but we needed a bottle for the bris, and the free diaper bag from the hospital had one!
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Karapooz
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Before my due date, I wrote down for my husband where Zusha's old clothes are kept, how the bag is labeled, how to wash them, which detergent to use...
He looked at me quite blankly, blinked a few times, and nodded.
I promptly went and got the bag, and washed it all myself.

Besides, he'd just throw in the whole bag, indiscriminately. But what if it was a girl? There are some real boyish clothes that I wouldn't put on a girl. Others are not weather- appropriate. Others aren't machine washable. Others need to be taken out of the dryer promptly, or shouldn't be dried at all. My husband would just dump it all in the washer, then the dryer, and would leave it there. Or better yet, dump the dried clothing in a nice pile on my bed, where I belong, not baby clothes. And then I'd have to fold and sort myself.
And being that I got very little help, being so close to Pesach, and that Zusha only wants ME to feed, dress, play with him and won't let my husband do any of it, I had a mild case of PPD. Sorting through a mountain of baby clothes just so I could reclaim my bed is not something I wanted to experience, so it was all done by ME in advance.
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About a week before Mimi was born I wrote out a very detailed schedule for whoever would be watching my kids while I was in the hospital, but that's about it. Dh took my girls shopping for baby clothes on their way to visit me in the hospital, washed out the carseat cover, and borrowed a snowsuit from a neighbor.
ScrappingMom, the wonderful person that she is, made supper for my family while I was in the hospital. Between her, my mom, and my neighbors, I didn't have to worry about making food beforehand (and trying to store it in my tiny freezer).
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