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How much do you do before the baby is born?; Or do you leave EVERYTHING for after?
Topic Started: May 8 2006, 07:33 PM (393 Views)
chavamom
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Since I was having the baby at home, yes, I had to get a few things. It was funny b/c even though I have 3 other girls, I didn't have anything for Batsheva. My first two girls were born in Israel and when we moved we did not bring the unused clothing with us. Tiferet was born in the US, but it was Spring and hot when she was born. I had NOTHING for a late fall baby.
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FlowerGirl
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May 9 2006, 01:36 PM
And being that I got very little help, being so close to Pesach, and that Zusha only wants ME to feed, dress, play with him and won't let my husband do any of it, I had a mild case of PPD.

imho, u should involve your husband a bit. ppd is not a joke and most fathers do just fine when faced with child or house related challenges. Zusha seems to have survived through your hospital stay.

I had ppd and it's not fun.
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Karapooz
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He survived, but the look he had on his poor little face when he visited me told another story.
He's usually OK to have my husband take care of him if I'm not home. But when Iam, it's just Mama. He's had experience already to know- when I was working and my husband stayed with Zusha, he wouldn't concentrate a lot on what Zusha was saying and wouldn't give him what he wanted right away. Zusha learned not to expect anything to get done. And chores... it's easier to just do it myself or to let it slide. :rolleyes:
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We had NOTHING!! And I mean nothing. Basically we found out we were getting our son 11 days before he was born (about 20 days before the birthmom's due date). We were too scared that it wouldn't happen that we didn't buy anything. But I did register (both online and at the store) for the stuff I wanted so that friends and family could go on a shopping spree once we took him home from the hospital. And we let one friend buy us a diaper bag full of "coming home from the hospital" gear, but she kept it at her house until we got the call that the baby was born.
We had a total hodgepodge of stuff for the first few weeks - either stuff we borrowed from my mother and from friends, stuff from a gemach until we got our own, and our own stuff.

Let me put it this way... about 2 hours before they discharged the baby from the hospital to us, DH and I ran to Burlington to buy a blanket to cover him with to leave the hospital. We had borrowed a carseat from a Gemach, but it was cold that night and we didn't leave the hospital till 7 PM.

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FlowerGirl
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Whatever needs to be done so that the baby & mommy have whatever they need for the first few weeks.
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Its funny but this time we have the bassinet, we have everything from the boys- and I have yet to take 3/4 out. The only things we have taken out are the car seat (to get her home in), the swing (today... just to put her in when I am downstairs and she is out), and the bassinet which she refuses to sleep in! she perfers the car seat!

I have become determined- they need nothing really but food to eat and lots of hugs!
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FlowerGirl
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Being that Friday is really favoured as the best day to be born on in our family, I have to have it all ready - dh won't have time for this!

But Fridays aside, one never knows when the baby desides to arrive, so I preffer to be ready (low ley ready), for the first week or 2).

By the way, this time I had the bassinet set up in advance as I had to make sure it will fit where we wanted it, and I'm very glad we did it - older kid just parked in it for a few days. By the time the baby came, she realised it was too squashy and no fun, as apposed to no being allowed in there & jealous.
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See for me if I had done all that prep I would have never of enjoyed any of my pregs. and just had been SO stressed out!
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We had almost nothing, and actually I wish that we were more prepared. My baby was born in the end of May, and I only had summer stuff (given by friends) and nothing warm. But the day we were coming home it was cold, I asked my husband to get something warm and he didn't know what to get because he never held or saw such a small baby before. It was a disaster, in the end his boss (female) felt sorry for him and went to the store with him, and told him what to buy, he bought a VERY expensive hat and sweater in some fancy store but at least we had something. But I really wished we were more prepared, first few weeks were so stressful because of it.
Maybe with 2nd baby it's easier, but with first - not only we didn't have stuff, but we didn't know what we need. That made it really hard.
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May 12 2006, 12:14 AM
See for me if I had done all that prep I would have never of enjoyed any of my pregs. and just had been SO stressed out!

I can't say I enjoyed my last preg
In any case, I had somebody else do all of the stuff that had to be done as I was phisically incapable of bending.

Also, I didn't prep. much, just the basics - car seat, bassinet, linens, clothing, blankets, changing pad. That's about it. As you said, newborn doesn't need much. Swing and all the trimmings were taken out later.

PS 2nd time around I left the clothing choice for dd's trip home up to dh. I told him where the box w/ clothing was ant asked him for an undershirt, outfit, hat, blanket. He brought an outfit w/ trucks and dark blue trimming for her. We took her home anyways! ;)

so next time I took 2 neutural outfits w/ me and let the BIG siblings pick what the baby will ware.

PPS If I know of you young pregnant couple who don't have help, I give them a tour of Babies R Us and explain to them what is what and give tips as to how ppl use it so that they can deside what they want to get.

Lilac, :hugs
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May 12 2006, 10:15 AM
PPS If I know of you young pregnant couple who don't have help, I give them a tour of Babies R Us and explain to them what is what and give tips as to how ppl use it so that they can deside what they want to get.

That is a really great idea and is very nice of you to do!!
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FG, I took out a pink and blue outfit and asked dh to bring one after the baby was born (for Gedalya.) For Zush I packed a neutral one. (actually that's the one Gedalya is wearing in my siggie, but you can't really see.)

Lilac- if I didn't buy a few things, the same thing would happen. Dh would go into some super boutique and get a cotton stretchie for $89 and a sweater/hat for $115 and a blanket for $64. :rolleyes:
He wouldn't even consider going to the Children's Place (around the corner) cuz it's goyish and they play goyish music. :rolleyes: <-again.

B"H I got the stretchie for like $6, hat for $1 and no sweater- too warm. Blanket for like $3. It's really bad for my nerves to allow my dh to take any responsibility for baby clothes or other items.
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lol I sent dh to kohl. I didn't give him a choice.
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My husband would go to whatever store I tell him, but problem is children's place, Babys R Us, etc.. don't carry really warm stuff in the summer. they might have long-sleeved cotton outfits, but nothing warmer than that.
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if I have a girl, there is no way on earth that I am having her come home in a boys outfit, or anything that resembles nuetral!! (My boys don't own anything nuetral....all boy stuff!) If I have a girl, your going to be able to tell from 3 miles away that she is a girl. Even if I have to have a friend do the shopping for me!
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