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| rikal | Aug 10 2006, 12:03 PM Post #1 |
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All my kids until now have been pretty well placed and mostly they did well. Now I am sending my nephew in the coming year to yeshiva (he has to get out of here) and we were pretty set. Now we have doubts and 2 choices. He is LD and gets a lot of help and is progressing slowly. At 13 1/2 he will be going only into 7th grade. It turns out after testing that his reading prob is mostly a put on for attention and to avoid being given work at his level. Math is another story and he has difficulty understanding even the concept of multiplication. Needless to say starting algebra is out of the question. Because of poor performance in a school that is always stressing mitztayenut we have to move him. His behaviour and attitude to yiddishkeit is dropping. We visited a school that has dorm for all grades, has a sw and the ability to provide him w/an individual program. He spent a week there and was accepted. The prob is that we found that most of the kids come from "traditional" homes and not much is expected of them in terms of mitzvot, let alone to grow in yiras shamayim. From 9th grade they have a regular yeshiva on a lower level but they have to keep the kids interested until then. In short, the behaviour of these kids is below what he is used to and he told my other boys about the shtuss the kids there do. I couldn't sleep over this because of another yeshiva that was recommended for the same kind of boy. The difference is that they are not for kids on their way out. They are there for good kids who have difficulty learning the reg Israeli yeshiva schedule. They require Chassidishe behaviour at the yeshiva like other Chabad yeshivas but they know that the crowd they have know about movies, sports, etc. They have one absolute drisha - that the bachur wear a hat and suit. They owe this to the other parents and I think its fair. Because the kids here laughed at him he stopped wearing it after a few weeks. Also one of the families gave him a kippa sruga for his BM. Subtle aren't they? Anyway, I felt the rav I spoke to who advises parents on chinuch said this place would not be suitable because he immediately nixed every place that is on the wrong side of the "machlokes" in Chabad. I don't care about the freakin' machloches, I was Chabad before there was such a thing. I don't add any hyphens to that title. Now I have a 13 yr old boy who needs to get into the right yeshiva the 1st time. The 2nd yeshiva said they feel he would be suitable and be happy to meet him if he is willing to meet this one requirement. He's at camp now and we have to present it to him when he comes and I need to know how to do it. I want him to try the 2nd if he is up to it because kids in the 1st school have the rep of being prob kids. The 2nd are kids a little better than he is. Here also they can provide him with a special program and occupational training. 2 other small probs. The yeshiva is near Teverya so we will have to tiptoe between the rockets. And some here have managed to embroil dh into this machlokes thing and he doesn't really understand that for a kid like this its a side issue mamash. We are trying to keep him frum. Input? |
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| zuncompany | Aug 10 2006, 12:33 PM Post #2 |
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would you consider school outside of Israel? |
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| rikal | Aug 10 2006, 09:21 PM Post #3 |
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1. He speaks only Heb. a 2nd language would be tuff. Remember he is not so quick at learning. 2. If he lives outside Israel my mil will certainly take him. Here people are on our side. 3. Special yeshivas in Chabad are almost nonexistant as far as I know in chutz. 4, My kids are very attached to EY. Thats how they were raised. 5. He lived in 3 states back and forth before we got him at age 6. He needs stability. Coming home every 2 wks would be enough. If he was in chutz we couldn't bring him home that often. 6. Collel Chabad's widow and orphan prog is paying for him to have a totally individuak prog w/private tutoring. 7. DH would never agree. |
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| zuncompany | Aug 10 2006, 11:51 PM Post #4 |
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understand rikal. I didn't realize he only spoke hebrew. I assumed otherwise knowing he lived here in the states until he was 6 (or I thought I remember this). Makes sense. I was thinking of wilke-barre here in PA. I know the family that runs it. I heard its a really special and good program. |
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