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Positive Parenting for preschoolers; share your tips here!
Topic Started: Oct 27 2006, 12:51 PM (624 Views)
realeez
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- anything that is a story or game is always fun and really works - like when you are at home you can tell him about the VCR being a mouth and we can't put our fingers in someone else's mouth b/c that is very yucky (something like that!)

- you can try those sand timer things or microwave timers - let's see if we can get dressed before it beeps. sometimes i sing a really fast song and get them dressed b4 they can blink - works well! or even - let's see what letter of the abcs we are up to b4 you get dressed.

- lots of humour - for yourself and the kids - my ds who is 3 wears glasses and it slips down his and instead of fixing it myself or nagging him to push them back up I say "Uh oh - your nose can see!" and he laughs and fixes his glasses.

- finally, the more you feel like smacking your child (not that i ever did), the bigger the hug s/he needs!

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happyduck1979
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realeez
Oct 27 2006, 01:51 PM

- finally, the more you feel like smacking your child (not that i ever did), the bigger the hug s/he needs!

I really like this one

Ithink I am going to put it on my fridge.
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realeez
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aww thanks :)
it's really true!
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ScrappingMom
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On the getting dressed- I used to count. Example- for pants I tell them I'm counting until 10 (or whatever number is reasonable), then I start counting, making a game out of it. Can you get your pants on faster than Mommy can count?

My 8 y.o. was terrified of the thunder. He used to hide in a corner of the kitchen every time there was a thunderstorm. So I made up a story: Hashem is in charge of everything even the plants and trees. They need to grow, so Hashem is watering them (the rain). Since Hashem is powerful, His footsteps are loud (thunder) as He walks across the sky to find plants to water. It's usually dark when there's a storm, so in order to see, Hashem uses a flashlight (lightning). After I told him the story, we looked out of the window to see the rain.
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ykmommy
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I did that with ds - "Don't worry, the thunder is just Hashem talking to the earth!". Ds went to school one day on a very stormy day and I thought he'd be histerical when he came home. He walked in so non-chalantly and said, "Boy, Mommy, Hashem sure had a lot to say today!!" I love it when he turns the tables like that on me and makes me laugh.
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U Tarzan Me Jane
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ScrappingMom
Oct 27 2006, 02:19 PM
On the getting dressed- I used to count. Example- for pants I tell them I'm counting until 10 (or whatever number is reasonable), then I start counting, making a game out of it. Can you get your pants on faster than Mommy can count?

My 8 y.o. was terrified of the thunder. He used to hide in a corner of the kitchen every time there was a thunderstorm. So I made up a story: Hashem is in charge of everything even the plants and trees. They need to grow, so Hashem is watering them (the rain). Since Hashem is powerful, His footsteps are loud (thunder) as He walks across the sky to find plants to water. It's usually dark when there's a storm, so in order to see, Hashem uses a flashlight (lightning). After I told him the story, we looked out of the window to see the rain.

my mother used to sat it was the melachim bowling!
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zuncompany
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mine too! thats what I tell Zu also :)
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rikal
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Be consistant in schedule, rules, etc. Not rigid, yes to spontaninity. Pleasant, not authoritarian. But to not have to think every day what time do we go to bed. Kids are more secure when they know what to expect and having good habits taught in the early years is much easier than trying to root out bad ones later. If you do it with the oldest, like ducks the rest seem to fall in to line.
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In our house we have rountine but no schedule. The kids know we get up in the morning, daven, have bf, play, nap time, etc... but with routine you can be flexable. So, if davening takes 5 mins more than usual, I am not worried. If a project I planned ends up failing miserably we can move on with out worry.

I have said it before- I make a point every day to have tickle time. We all pile up and just laugh and joke together to lighten the mood. Its important to have fun each day and smile!
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My son]s schedule is totally out due his need for a sleep in the afternoon and if i manage to not get him to sleep then i am happy and then he sleeps at a normal hour.

BUt every morning is the same. Get up, get dressed, have bfast and get out to nursery and work. After nursery he has a drink when he gets in and if he wants a small snack.
Then i try to do a craft with him, but i think he isn't interested as he does that in nursery so he probably just wants to wind down. So Sunday i try to do fun stuff with him.
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