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how do i keep my son out of my bed; help
Topic Started: May 10 2007, 08:33 AM (134 Views)
BusyMommy
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i have not slept all week. my son is 3 and a half. he has a little bit of asthma and excema. both things wake him up at night but sometimes it is more of a game or a habit. he comes in my bed then we go to his bed and i end up sleeping the whole night in there so uncomfortable. i have tried locking my door which i know sounds horrible- but i always open it when i hear him trying to get in. there were 2 times he went back nicely in his bed when my door was locked.

should i put a blanket on my floor for him?

any advice is appreciated.
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Mandy
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Don't open the door when he is trying to get in. It is not horrible to lock kids out of your room. We do it all the time. Otherwise we would never get any sleep. They get used to it quickly and stay in bed
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rikal
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But he should have some kind of way to tell you that his asthma is acting up, esp if it he has attacks.
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BusyMommy
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never had an attack- just needs it sometimes to help him breathe better. i see him scratchiing all night that is what is waking him up.i used to be able to sneak out of his room after i got him back to sleep but now he just wakes up every time.
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zuncompany
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Have you learned to wet wrap? It will help with the eczema if done properly.
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BusyMommy
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no what is that?
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zuncompany
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wet wrapping could really help!! I know when tev lets he gets a real nights sleep. Frei oatbaths work.

wet wrapping- soak in bath 20ish mins. Not less. Make sure they stay submerged through shoulders as best as you can. Have everything sitting out ready to go the second they come out. Once you get them out you have three mins to lock in moisture. Pat them dry- not rub (very important). Cream them down. Take PJs that are tighter to the skin (we use old navy ones) and wet them and ring. Put them on with socks (also damp). If you have footsie PJs that are tighter to the skin i hear it can work too. Than put a dry layer. Either footsie PJs (what we do) or sweats w/socks. Put them to bed like this. They make specialty stuff to go as bottom layer but we don't have. Clears Tev up in 3 days but if i don't do it every night he starts to develop it again. Frei is not near as bad as Tev. Tev I woul d say is covered 95% of his body.
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On days that Hallie comes in, which is rare, I walk her back to her room and tuck her in. Half the time she is sleep walking, but I ask her if everything is ok. Sometimes she needs to use the bathroom, but always walk them right into their own room, and close the door and walk away. I've had nights when I had to do this several times. But 99% of the time she doesn't come in, and when I have that 1% time when she does come in my room, this works for the rest of the night. It's not play time, it's not a game. If she's scared I look for monsters (and reassure her I bought a monster free home). If she's wide awake and needs me to stay with her, I tell her only for 1 minute and do... then I leave. Always leave! :)
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sauls_mom
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i personally dont agree with locking the child out- you can never tell why they are needing you at that moment....

to keep him in his bed you can also try talking to him and explaining why he needs to stay in his room- my son is about the same age- and reasoning worked with him (after a few nights.)

also- does he have a comfort item? that may help.
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DesignMommy
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sauls_mom
May 10 2007, 03:35 PM
i personally dont agree with locking the child out- you can never tell why they are needing you at that moment....

to keep him in his bed you can also try talking to him and explaining why he needs to stay in his room- my son is about the same age- and reasoning worked with him (after a few nights.)

also- does he have a comfort item? that may help.

I'm with Saul's Mom! My daughter will wake up from a bad dream and come to our room. Sometimes we let her fall asleep and then bring her back, sometimes we let her stay (if she is really upset.) if it becomes more of a habit, we have a sticker chart that we use- 7 nights in a row in her bed and she gets to choose a toy (up to a certain price). She likes putting the stickers on! She is 5 1/2 now, we have done this since she was 2 1/2.

Sleep deprivation is so hard. You have my sympathy.
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zuncompany
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Also there is the concern that while an attack had not B"H happened yet- it could. The boys know if they start reacting come get us asap.
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ScrappingMom
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When the kids were little, they liked to sleep with us. I have a bad back, so they sleep with dh. We limit it to Shabbos and YT. Ds#2 still sleeps with dh.

While it's hard to sleep with them every night, can you give him the incentive that if he sleeps in his bed during the week, he can sleep with you on Shabbos?
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BusyMommy
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i hear my son the second he gets out of his bed or even when he wakes up. i am a very light sleeper.
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zuncompany
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same but its that off chance I want them to have access to me just in case HV"S something happens!
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