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| Quality time with a 4.5 year old. | |
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| Tweet Topic Started: Jun 25 2007, 07:33 AM (78 Views) | |
| hallie_ari_mom | Jun 25 2007, 07:33 AM Post #1 |
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It's truly hard to do! I find myself yelling more than I want. Saturday I told dh that I was miserable bc everything is an argument, and she only seems happy when we play Polly Pockets or if she plays make believe with you. Or you MUST push her on the swings. Not one big push but constantly. I can't with Ari! So.. yesterday I truly took things minute by minute. Made each moment more memorable and happy. No yelling. We had a great day. Today Ari is sleeping in so she and I "got ready" together, had breakfast, etc. Now she is playing happily on her own in her room. I think I just need to spend more quality time with her and then maybe she'll be more easy going. Much easier to do now that I am not babysitting. Just curious on what you guys do with your "big" kids. |
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| ykmommy | Jun 25 2007, 08:51 AM Post #2 |
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aishes chayil
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Yes - it is like they have radar when your attention is not on them. I only have the one boy (which should make it easier) but it isn't always due to other circumstances in our life. If he sees me on the phone - he starts acting silly. The problem is, he has his worries and can't not express them except by acting out in a negative manner. For example, yesterday I was watering plants and he knows I'm allergic to bees and he was really worried so instead of saying, "Please, Mommy, come in and wait for Tatty to do that." He hit me with apple juice until I was forced to come inside. When we have our talks and quiet moments of reading, drawing, learning parsha or doing science experiments - it calms him down. Sometimes, getting him to help me with what I'm doing (like pouring the flour into the bowl when I make a cake) makes him feel useful and helpful and he stops acting up. Maybe you could get Hallie into helping you out more with Ari so that she feels more grown-up and you can still have your time with Ari? I don't know - maybe that wouldn't work for you. |
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| Akvir | Jun 25 2007, 10:41 AM Post #3 |
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aishes chayil
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I try to do stuff with Sammy like arts and crafts but it is hard now with the baby also demanding attention, so it only works out if she sleeps. We play games together which is nice, he likes Guess Who and i read him books which is like special time. He is very happy playing cars on his own, but i do like to spend a bit of time everyday just me and him because otherwise he will start acting up due to lack of attention. He loves being a big help as well which also helps with the quality time, he can help and feel that you are spending time with him. |
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