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| Ima2Netanel | Jul 2 2007, 07:06 AM Post #1 |
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every day is a massive struggle to get DS to dress himself. He knows how. Once he has dressed himself he smiles and is happy about it. But getting him to start getting dressed is a pain. We have tried everything. Let him play a bit before getting dressed, dont let him play at all before getting dressed. Stay in the room. Leave the room. Make it a game. Be strict. Make it a contest, go nice and slowly. Make him miss breakfast if he is running late, make him go out with his pj's on. I just dont know what to do anymore. Every day starts with a major fight, and it really sets the mood for the rest of the day. he will hit and kick us, yell, ignore, etc. Please help |
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| ScrappingMom | Jul 2 2007, 10:25 AM Post #2 |
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How about letting him be part of picking out his clothes? |
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| ICan | Jul 2 2007, 11:35 AM Post #3 |
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what is the problem? does he want you to dress him? I once read that just b/c a child knows how doesn't mean he should be expected to do it. i can cook a gourmet meal but i wouldn't like to be expected to cook one every day though. |
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| Jo :-) | Jul 2 2007, 12:30 PM Post #4 |
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We have a similar problem and have tried a few different approaches. Letting him be involved in picking and choosing clothes and/or offering to dress him hasn't necessarily helped. We generally insist that he is dressed before he has breakfast - and as he loves breakfast - he usually agrees without too much of a fight. If he doesn't care so much, that approach won't help you. |
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| rikal | Jul 2 2007, 01:38 PM Post #5 |
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If hr was dressing himself he shouldn't be allowed to go back. I can choose not to get roped into gourmet meals, I cannot choose to not prepare dinner. |
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| Ima2Netanel | Jul 2 2007, 02:12 PM Post #6 |
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He can and will dress himself....sometimes i can let him pick out the clothes a bit more. I made him miss breakfast this Am becuase he wasnt dressed when we ate. He was not happy about it. Hopefully after a few times of this he'll get the picture |
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| realeez | Jul 2 2007, 02:26 PM Post #7 |
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I read that too and I totally agree. Personally, I would not make a child miss breakfast because he didn't get dressed - maybe not make a fancier breakfast that would take more time, but missing breakfast altogether is just setting a child up for failure for the rest of the day. What about a chart with pics of each item he wears and he gets a sticker on each item he puts on? IIRC, your son is 3? |
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| U Tarzan Me Jane | Jul 2 2007, 03:38 PM Post #8 |
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My kids can get dressed....I know this because some mornings they are all dressed when I wake up. They usually don't though. I find that if I tell them "OK, your being a baby I guess we'll have to do it the baby way!" And then I start undressing/dressing them like a baby, it usually gets them upset enough to motivate them. "NO I"M A BIG BOY! NOT A BABY!!! |
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| Ima2Netanel | Jul 2 2007, 05:07 PM Post #9 |
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yes, he's 3. And of course if I make him skip mbreakfast I still give him snack etc, so he still gets fed. Ill have to see how it happens |
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| 0613 | Jul 3 2007, 01:00 PM Post #10 |
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does he give you the resistance when you try to get him dressed? or only when you insist that he get dressed by himself. most mornings dd will get dressed by herself (with the two of colloborating as to what she will wear), but some mornings she just not in the mood, so dh or i will help. she loves having a "beat the clock" session. she says "count to X" and runs to her room while i start counting. she tries to get dressed before I reach X. And when she runs out of her room all done, I cheer her on, "wow I only got up to Y and you wanted me to count all the way to X! You're so fast!" |
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| Ima2Netanel | Jul 3 2007, 01:23 PM Post #11 |
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when he is in a mood, he just wants to play and no one can dress him. have tried races as well. Today wasnt so bad actually |
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| buba-luba | Jul 3 2007, 02:16 PM Post #12 |
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Sorry to say so but I'm so glad we're not alone! Lately Adin has been giving us a hell of a fight every morning. He used to get dressed by himself and be very proud of it. Then he started asking for me to dress up Maor first and then he would get dressed. Now it's first Maor, and then he still says no and does all kind of things to drive us mad, and in the end I have to dress him. If I'm lucky he'll take off his PJ's pants on his own. It rarely ends without him or me loosing it. This morning we started trying the 'come chose your own clothes" startegy, it wasn't as bad but I still had to dress him. He doesn't care about missing breakfast. :hugs :hugs :hugs |
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| ICan | Jul 3 2007, 02:39 PM Post #13 |
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Why not?
You can choose to order takeout if you're having a busy day (ok, not here :D ) If it's important that he is dressed than he can't choose not to be dressed, but maybe he can choose to have help getting dressed? |
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| buba-luba | Jul 4 2007, 04:03 AM Post #14 |
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I don't mind helping him. If he's "regressing" he probably has a reason and I'd rather not turn everything into control issues, it hasn't helped in the past! But the struggle about getting dressed no matter how or by whom... Today was rather quiet, BTW. (praying it stays like that!) |
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| guarana613 | Jul 4 2007, 12:28 PM Post #15 |
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I donīt think not dressing himself is regressing. I think 3 year olds still want some babying at times. and at some point they will start getting dressed themselves. |
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