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Inappropriate words
Topic Started: Sep 6 2007, 09:56 AM (162 Views)
gayilc
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aishes chayil
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Since Ru started school, he has been coming home saying "bathroom words" a lot. It creeps into his songs, into his play, everthing. He also has been saying the word stupid... It really bothers me. There's one kid (from a nice family) that whenever he's around, I always hear him using htese words. I feel like I barely see him, and he's saying them whenever I do, who knows how much more he speaks them?

Am I just a naive first time mother of a 4 year old, and this is normal behavior for them? Or is it really too much.

This is something that really really bothers me, as I feel I would never ever talk that way, and the fact that my son does upsets me. I don't know how to react or what to say. I dont' want to give it attention, but I don't want him to continue talking like that. And, whenever I'm around the other kid (he's in my kids' carpool) I get upset that my son is even in his class.
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we've been hearing those words, too. we usually say VERY nicely and maturely, in a non-reprimanding manner "oh, we don't use that word" "oh, that's not a nice word" etc. now, my dd will say "so-and-so said 'stupid' today - that's not nice." but when she's in a trouble-making mood, she'll be sure to use those words just to let us know that she wants to make trouble :rolleyes:
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It totally is normal and I hate it too. I did catch it with Hallie at one point. It was easy to do. "bathroom words" are ok to use.. in the bathroom. So if she was in the car and saying bathroom words, I'd tell her she needs to think of car words bc we were in the car. So she did. In the kitchen, bedroom, den, everywhere. She became very discriptive of her surroundings. Then, in the bathroom she'd say, "can I say poopy now"? Yes, of course you can! So she did, and after a week or so, the game got old for her. No more bathroom words at all. And when her friends did it, she'd tell them they were being silly. "you can't use bathroom words in the living room, duh!!"

All in all, they do it for a reaction from you.
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HalliesMom we did the same thing with my 2nd sonand he would go in the bathroom and scream his various words :rolleyes: He got over it soon enough.

Such is life in school - they hear all sorts of things and want to repeat it.
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gayilc
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Hallie's mom, that's agood idea for bathroomwords, but what about words like "stupid" and "shut up"??
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I like the bathroom idea for bathroom words!
Although so far Adin's worse has been "tuna-mango-bulik" (don't ask me why... but he makes it sound very bad).
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gayilc
Sep 6 2007, 12:55 PM
Hallie's mom, that's  agood idea for bathroomwords, but what about words like "stupid" and "shut up"??

best is to keep repeating "in our house or family we don't use that word." this way when he tries to say "but, X says that" you can keep repeating the same line.
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My DD went through this last year. I wish I had thought of Barbie´s idea--bathroom words, kitchen words etc. Instead, I just learned to not say anything (even though I wanted to make a fuss). Once she saw that she was not getting a reaction, she stopped saying those dreaded bathroom words.
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I would say those words aren't acceptable in the house, or group them with bathroom words. If they want to say them, go ahead and say them there! Then, out here you can't. We treat eachother with respect, but if you want to go in their and say them, that's the appropriate place to do so. (obviously we all want them to NOT want to say them, but that's not really real life)
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Kids tend to repeat things they hear. If they get a reaction out of us, the better for them.

I like Barbie's idea about bathroom words.
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