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When every idea becomes a promise carved in stone; How do you deal?
Topic Started: Dec 3 2007, 06:44 PM (195 Views)
realeez
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Anytime we have an idea of an outing or even something to do around the house, my ds (5.5) takes that as a promise that should never be broken. Like for example we told the kids that we will check with our neighbours if we can go swimming in their pool on Motzei Shabbos... Neighbours were going to a Bar Mitzvah. Enter tears "But you said ___." Even if a better option comes up, if any other ideas were mentioned it's like the end of the world. Once we decided to go out to eat as a family and on the way home, a little voice from the backseat pipes up "But you promised us macaroni and cheese!!!" Even if I am very clear about "we will see" it doesn't help.

Any solutions????
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gayilc
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aishes chayil
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I have the same problem with my 4 year old sometimes. The worsst is when I tell him we'll try to find a friend for him to go to and it doesn't work out! He goes crazy!
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hallie_ari_mom
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Honestly? I don't tell Hallie ANYTHING until the moment before it happens. I can't! She can't deal with disappointment, and I don't think a 5 year old is programed to. My mom didn't tell ME anything either back then. I don't think teaching a 5 year old disappointment makes any more sense than teaching a 2 year old to share. They just can't...
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I'm totally with h_a_mom.
Nothing until it's imminent.

Even if my mother is about to come, I don't tell them until she rings the bell.
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JRKmommy
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Oh, we deal with this all the time!

I've started telling dh "don't pull an Olmert!" That's my way of saying that you can't mention something and then think that you can get away with deviating from it, because all h@ll will break lose! I'm starting to break dh of the habit of thinking aloud.
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