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| zuncompany | Apr 1 2008, 06:08 PM Post #1 |
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for those who make their own- do you invite a lot of guests? Do you keep it small and just your little family? Do you do one and one? How does it change the dynamic of your seder? |
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| hallie_ari_mom | Apr 1 2008, 07:28 PM Post #2 |
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I am hosting the second night. The first night I am going to my IL's (my parents usually go to) but this year my parents are hosting the first night for their machetumin and my brother. They will have 6 people at the seder. I will be hosting ~16-19 the second night. Both sets of parents, my grandma and her beau, (he's 10 years older.. the cutest 81 and 91 year old couple ever) my aunt/uncle/cousins and with us, it's 16. However, there is a chance that 3 more will be joining us (2 more BIL's and a SIL) My seder will lack decorum and quiet. It will be child friendly, noisy and probably confusing. But we will have a good time and hopefully we will learn a bit as well as well. A few speak Hebrew, mostly English, but it'll be casual and quite crowded. My brother and his wife prefer quiet gatherings, so that's why mom is choosing to do a small gathering at her house the day before. My IL's will have "the usual suspects". No Hebrew, the "fast version" and rushed. My seder will actually be a "left overs seder" so I don't have to cook TOO much. I'll make a brisket, and then everyone else will bring... whatever.... Probably more than you wanted to know. ;) |
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| Marion | Apr 1 2008, 07:40 PM Post #3 |
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This is the first year we're doing it, and due to the hour and the ages of the kids (who I expect will be asleep) I think it will be just us. Obviously eventually I'd like it to grow, but this year is NOT the year. |
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| Estie | Apr 1 2008, 07:42 PM Post #4 |
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I usually have one of each |
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| U Tarzan Me Jane | Apr 1 2008, 07:43 PM Post #5 |
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this is our first year too, I would love to have guests, but do not really have anyone to invite.... |
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| gayilc | Apr 1 2008, 08:50 PM Post #6 |
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My il's are coming to us for the first days this year. I ahve never made my own seder, and wish we were going away. BeH, it will be good. |
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| realeez | Apr 1 2008, 09:42 PM Post #7 |
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we are going to my parents for the sedarim - what a pleasure to have them walking distance and the kids can sleep over after! our guests will be my ILs for the last days - first time ever doing this! |
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| realgood | Apr 2 2008, 01:58 AM Post #8 |
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we are doing one night by us and one night by my parents. i am sure my parents wil have other guests too. two of my dh's siblings are coming for pesach so it wont be just us on one night, but i like that one night SZ can shine and tell us all he has learnt in school..i just hope he takes a nap, because he isnt the type of kid that can stay up late without one. he will go to bed early if he is tired and u cant convince him otherwise. |
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| chavamom | Apr 2 2008, 02:53 AM Post #9 |
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We usually have a number of guests for both nights. This year, nope. With due date looming and a homebirth to boot, I'm taking no chances. |
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| conundrum1 | Apr 2 2008, 08:25 AM Post #10 |
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Wow! My ILs would NEVER do that. How did you convince them? Lucky girl. Actually, the last days will be nice because my FILs brother, wife and non-married kids will be staying by my ILs. The whole mishpacha. Oooooh I sense drama! :) |
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| sauls_mom | Apr 2 2008, 09:07 AM Post #11 |
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i think we are having 20+ people for our first night- the 2nd night will just be us. there will be a ton of little kids- which im looking forward too. |
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| JRKmommy | Apr 2 2008, 09:31 AM Post #12 |
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Since we got married, our families have grown, and we have stopped driving on Shabbat and Yom Tov and gone kosher. This means that we now host the entire family at our house. We had 35 for Rosh Hashana, and I'm expecting at least 30 for the first seder. We clear out the furniture from the living/dining room, and set up folding tables and chairs. I use plastic covers instead of tablecloths, and paper plates. My parents cook a big brisket, using a roasting pan they bought just for my kosher stuff. My ILs make schnitzel, again using kosher stuff. Other guests usually ask if they can bring things, so I usually assign drinks, desserts, cold salads with separate dressing, etc. to various people. If we agree to have Toxic Relative come again, she'll usually bring some beige pukey-looking stuff that she's cooked up. I do the matzo ball soup, the gefilte fish (I buy frozen rolls), and some sort of chicken dish, plus coffee and tea, and of course, the Seder plate and items. I generally panic and think that everyone will starve, and end up with enough food to feed a small army. I set things up buffet-style in the kitchen, put drinks on the island, dessert on the kitchen table, and put extra seating in the family room and basement. The kids will run to the basement after about 5 min of eating, while the adults keep talking and enjoying. We'll have 1 baby, 2 toddlers and 2 three-year-ols, as well as 2 in kindergarten, an 8 yr old, a 9 year old, and an almost-12 year old. Somehow, we'll drag the kids back in for the last half of the Seder - the promise of an afikoman search and dessert will help. We often go around the table reading the Seder - Israelis read in Hebrew, my family reads in English, and the kids sing the parts they've learned. We'll incorporate my family's orderly style of preparing Seder stuff in advance (my dad will pre-make matza sandwiches, pass around forks with karpas, etc.), but throw in some informal Israeli ruach too. Second night will be at the ILs (about a 20 min walk away), and we'll sleep over. |
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| ScrappingMom | Apr 3 2008, 08:43 PM Post #13 |
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Same here. We used to do one at home and go to my parents for the other. This way the kids got to see a huge (50+) seder and have a quiet one where they get to tell us all they learned. Now we do both at home. Alot of people don't eat out on Pesach, so it's hard to find people to invite. |
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| zuncompany | Apr 3 2008, 08:59 PM Post #14 |
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yes! thats the hardest for us too. We always make a point of inviting the family's from dh's office. One year one came after their family thing (we hadn't even started yet by the time theirs was over) and it was very nice. He loved it and wanted to stay longer... she not so much. He would come every year but she has no interest in a seder that doesn't take five mins and than food. |
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| U Tarzan Me Jane | Apr 4 2008, 10:04 AM Post #15 |
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One year we had my parents over for a peasach meal---not the seder, but it was so hard because I had to separate all the utensils I had used on gebrucks cooking, and I had to make sure the pots I used had not been used for anything for us. (good thing my parents trust me!) But after that year, I just said that it was too complicated to do it again. If someone needed a place, I would totally offer, Just that most people I know go to their own families peasach time! |
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