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Need Help on how to deal with bullying and high school
Tweet Topic Started: Apr 27 2014, 01:29 AM (588 Views)
NintendoLuke99	Apr 27 2014, 01:29 AM Post #1
Nintendo 64 Teen Enthusiast Posts: 593 Group: Senior Members Member #1,066 Joined: October 23, 2012	Hey Guys,i am really having a case of insomnia,and i have been thinking about alot of things and this is one of em I have been bullied pretty much my entire life.At home and at school. Its been going on majorly for about 6 years now,and it has followed me everywhere I have gone. I remember for a time the N64 being the only source of my happiness. Now its starting to get worse. All of the people in my grade really don't like me(its a really small school so only about 10 students in eighth grade) and its very cliquey. I won't mention the name,but there are two people in my grade who think its funny and all that to make my life a living .The school seemed really good at first,but now its really bad.MY brothers getting bullied and so am i. None of the teachers will do a dang thing about it,alot of em just dismiss it as boys being boys. Its so much of the classic stuff,physical,emotional,talking behind your back,manipulation,freeloading,so many stuff.I am really sad about spring break being over,because that means i will have to go back to that.All of this pressure and stress is building up inside me,and the problem is,i can never really express my emotions well in person,like my friend(who turned out to be a bully) kept on making fun of me and all that stuff..and i never did anything about it,even though i wanted to so badly. The thing is,its really starting to affect me,i've been crying aton more than i should..i even had a 30 minute sobbing session a week ago because of all the stuff that happened that week..and since my mom didnt know anything she dissmissed it as me being a teen. I just feel so much that noone ever understands me or listens to what i have to say,even though i try so hard to. All of the stuff is building up and after the latest humilation..i feel like i can't show my face there anymore.I have homework,so many stress. Even though i havent felt suicidal in months,its starting to creep back up on me..and i just can't take it anymore. i dont want to end my life ever,but its starting to feel like its one of the choices. I have to go to a consulour,but its so hard to talk to him knowing that he writes everything down.I really dont have brothers anymore tbh,since all of em go to parties and hang around their friends.And i am so concerned about high school,because my brother has done certain things that would give me a very bad rep,he hangs around the wrong crowd,all kinds of stuff,and when they are around us,its just making fun of us or doing low blows to us. I am really just really sad right now..the things that have happened to me over the years,are really starting to build up,and whenever i am at school,i feel like i just have to cry..its distracted me from so much stuff,includnig things i love. I know this probably sounds melodramtic and all that, but,(ik this is asking alot) do u guys have any advice?
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sanni	Apr 27 2014, 02:21 AM Post #2
Senior Member Posts: 639 Group: Senior Members Member #762 Joined: February 21, 2012	Have you considered spending your free time at the local gym? - working out is a great stress reliever - getting your body into shape will make you more self-confident - no one bullies someone who could easily break their nose - you will meet new friends - you will achieve results very quickly making success visible from the get-go - physical exercise is actually quite good for your mind - it also helps with the ladies Oh and it doesn't have to be the gym any kind of sports will do fine.



stinger9142	Apr 27 2014, 11:34 AM Post #3
Endure and survive... Posts: 6,726 Group: Admin Member #48 Joined: December 4, 2006	Luke, I am sorry to hear about you being bullied. I am in no way encouraging violence as a response... That being said, find a good martial arts school. Learning martial arts will greatly improve your physical conditioning, and as a result your self confidence. More importantly, you will be learning to defend yourself. I got bullied at a young age too. My school was not as small as yours, but my class had less than 50 people in it. By the time word spread I was in martial arts, most would be bullies fell by the wayside. The ones that still persisted folded when they saw I wouldn't back down. I had many fights from ages 6-12. After starting MMA at 13, I have had one fight in the next 18 years. It lasted about 3 seconds and required only one punch to end Don't go looking for trouble. Be yourself, be friendly, but don't be a coward. That will only make them keep bullying you. At some point if you have to make a stand, you will be better able to defend yourself. It may sound like I am advocating violence, but look closely at my own story. In a six year span before MMA I had over a half dozen fights as a result of bullies. I didn't look for a one of those fights. After taking MMA, one fight. It came at the result of a bullying attempt as well. So for me taking MMA resulted in an end to bullying and Far less confrontations. I will throw this out there too, people talk about being "fair" in a fight. There is no "fair" or "unfair". When people start losing, they will resort to what they think is necessary. That being said... If you are forced to act, first chance you get try to hit them in the groin or solar plexus (where their ribs meet in an upside down v right below their chest, knocks the wind out of them). If you are successful, Things will most likely go your way. I have been in MMA for 18 years. I have been teaching for 13 years now. My students are undefeated when going against folks outside of our "clan". For myself and them, martial arts has solved a lot of life's problems I teach a MMA system that comprises many styles. Muay Thai, Wing Chun Kung Fu, Submission Wrestling, Khihido Karate, and Brazilian Ju Jutsu. I recommend Ju Jutsu/Judo, Muay Thai/Kick Boxing, Wing Chun, or Krav Maga as styles for self defense. If you cant find any of the above, seek out a traditional karate or tae kwon do school. Boxing is great as well if you can't find a more well rounded alternative Message me if you have any questions



NintendoLuke99	Apr 27 2014, 03:46 PM Post #4
Nintendo 64 Teen Enthusiast Posts: 593 Group: Senior Members Member #1,066 Joined: October 23, 2012	Thanks for the advice sanni and stinger..i will definetley email u if I have any questions...although i have hardly ever gotten in a fight(only once but the bully was threatening me) i will definetley take the precautions when that is necessary. Anyway..its gonna be rough but i will definetley keep my head up. I am pretty much ready for school to be over,which i will be so glad when it is. I will definetley update with whats going on when there is anything new.
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stinger9142	Apr 28 2014, 07:05 PM Post #5
Endure and survive... Posts: 6,726 Group: Admin Member #48 Joined: December 4, 2006	I look forward to those (hopefully positive) updates.



NintendoLuke99	Apr 28 2014, 08:40 PM Post #6
Nintendo 64 Teen Enthusiast Posts: 593 Group: Senior Members Member #1,066 Joined: October 23, 2012	Anyway some updates...one of the bullies is out until Thursday... But the other one(aka my used to be friend is still there and naming a fool of me as usual... I just hate it... Even when he humiliated me and almost everything like backstabbing u name it, I still stayed his friend.. Also stinger I think I plan to do that during high school... Which I think will be ok.. Just the usual stuff happened today which was reeally annoying thy
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kartmaster	Apr 28 2014, 09:24 PM Post #7
Coffee Drinker Posts: 2,024 Group: Moderators Member #1,870 Joined: October 27, 2013	Luke, I think it's good that you're able to talk about it, even if it's in a somewhat anonymous forum like this. First thing is to know that the problem originates with the bully... not you. Nothing about you is causing you to be bullied. And there's nothing about you that you deserve the treatment you're getting. You are just unfortunate enough to be caught in the circle of a major dumbass or two. First of all, just try to avoid the nimrods. Secondly, try your best not to give them the reaction they're going for. Whether they're trying to make you angry, or make you cry, use you... whatever. Don't give it to them. Bullies want control over you. Deny them that control. You'll have to practice and develop some emotional and physical resolve. They're going to keep pushing, but if you can continually stand your ground, eventually they'll pick an easier target. At this point, even if these people used to be a friend, who gives a ---- what they think? They sure aren't much of a friend now. You are young and believe me when I say you are going to meet SO MANY more people in your life that you're going to come across a few really amazing people that make you feel great about who you are. And about six times as many a-holes. Give your energy to the people that are worth it, and don't waste it on the rest. Edited by kartmaster, Apr 28 2014, 09:25 PM.
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buddy1983	Apr 29 2014, 01:46 AM Post #8
Veteran Posts: 2,457 Group: Admin Member #861 Joined: June 20, 2012	One thing about bullies is that they are usally wimps. One smack on his nose, put him to the ground, if he gets back up do it again. Once they see your not a push over they're back off trust me.
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NintendoLuke99	May 30 2014, 05:13 PM Post #9
Nintendo 64 Teen Enthusiast Posts: 593 Group: Senior Members Member #1,066 Joined: October 23, 2012	Well,a big update..although the people i mentioned are still giving me a hard time,i really don't care to be honest because that is how they think of me,not of myself.Anyway, i finally stood up to my used to be friend..which definetley got me some closure of the stuff he did to me.Anyway,high school i am definetley hoping will be better.
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No64DD	May 31 2014, 12:08 AM Post #10
Neva wizard Kee Posts: 3,439 Group: Legendary Member #789 Joined: March 13, 2012	Luke, Let me take a moment to point out what you said " ,i really don't care to be honest because that is how they think of me, not of myself "- that's silly You do, and should care how others interperet you- for the great; unique individual person you are! If you truely embody that notion- then it REALLY doesn't matter what others think of you, or how they try to get you. I am almost twice your age- and in ways went through it TWICE as hard... where was social media when i was getting picked on??? Oh the irony lol It's ironic that although you have the oppurtunity to use a platform like this to reach out to others, when to some people- also are victims of things like cyber bullying, where it is just as serious to them as real life. Things could be worse, right? it is important to find perspective- that works for you! just tryin to help Edited by No64DD, May 31 2014, 10:20 AM.
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Conker69	May 31 2014, 12:42 AM Post #11
Senior Member Posts: 528 Group: Senior Members Member #1,728 Joined: August 18, 2013	I've been bullied all my life and still get bullied at work now I'm 23 and the best advice I can give you is just brush it off in the world there is always a bully you just have to learn to deal with it.
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action	Jun 4 2014, 02:22 AM Post #12
Senior Member Posts: 578 Group: Closed Account Member #1,394 Joined: April 7, 2013	i also went through all the same situations that are here described. i also found sanctuary at my N64 or other hobbies like bicycling, or one of my favorites play with my chickens who at the time i felt were the only living creatures caring for me lol i remember being fed up with it. pretty much the whole schoolyard was bullying me, and one day i decided to randomly pick one culprit (who was saying stupid things to me) and start fighting with him. all my rage i had built inside over the years was coming out. i kicked and hit the poor :cussfit:, he never knew what was coming at him. he put up this silly martial arts stance to scare me, but still i kept kicking him. a crowd was building around us and for five minutes i was like a god on the shoolyard. cant remember ever being bullied again since then. so my advice: give them the beating of their life. you will walk away a new person. Edited by action, Jun 4 2014, 02:23 AM.



Cabanon	Jun 4 2014, 05:47 AM Post #13
Elite Posts: 4,585 Group: Legendary Member #505 Joined: May 8, 2011	what im gonna say is harsh but the thruth. EVERYONE was bullied at some point in their life, EVERYONE. there's nothing special about your case or another. move on and live your life the way you want and dont give a about those little jerks. if they get physical with you, thats another story, but if it's just words, mehhhh, you're probably strong enough to support some silly words that only bullies use to cheer 'em up and prove to their friends they're "hot". I do not agree what they do but everyone talk about being bullied and this kind of turn angry a bit as if it's a new problem. sure it's good to talk about it but seriously, this has been this way since mankind exist. That said, I wish you luck, be strong and just dont care about 'em. little to music to your headphones/earbuds so you dont ear what they say.


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