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Kid dials accidentally 911 and gets Dad arrested
Topic Started: Jan 22 2009, 11:23 AM (277 Views)
EssieLou
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Yeahtht
In the end, the kids suffer.

We are dealing with a woman who just gave birth to twins....
Premies... that she didn't want.
She smoked, drank and drugged the entire pregnancy.
Was talking about aborting them up until they were born.
Father is HIV positive.
This woman has had like six abortions.

When we asked why she hasn't had her tubes tied, the response was "Well, she doesn't have any children!"

Someone help me with this logic.

What is it about self sacrifice and putting your kids first that is alien to so many folks?
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EssieLou
Jan 23 2009, 10:11 PM
Yeahtht
In the end, the kids suffer.

We are dealing with a woman who just gave birth to twins....
Premies... that she didn't want.
She smoked, drank and drugged the entire pregnancy.
Was talking about aborting them up until they were born.
Father is HIV positive.
This woman has had like six abortions.

When we asked why she hasn't had her tubes tied, the response was "Well, she doesn't have any children!"

Someone help me with this logic.

What is it about self sacrifice and putting your kids first that is alien to so many folks?
Shocki Good grief! I really don't get that!

Ok, I don't think that I can top that story but here is one of the cases that makes my head spin with it's incredible logic RRCrazy
We have a couple, both soldiers. She wants to get married because she wants to get out of the barracks sooooo bad and he pays her bills. He wants to get married because he's getting kicked out of the Military and doesn't wants to go home because he has no chance of getting a job or providing for himself. That sounds like the right reasons to get married, right? No kids thankfully - yet!
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I think the most amazing we see are kids who've had kids that have been taken away (15- 17 year olds) who honestly wanted to get pregnant because.....

They can't give a good reason.... it's just what everyone does and birth control? What's that? Anyhow, we get them because they're depressed, upset etc.... because they lost their child (because they were using drugs, neglectful, turning tricks etc).

Yet all they talk about is themselves and they don't see how their actions hurt the child.....they want what they want.

It's incredibly selfish.
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schnuppi
Jan 23 2009, 09:50 PM
EssieLou
Jan 23 2009, 09:42 PM
To jump around....
I see so many really really REALLY bad parents that when articles are posted about families having 13, 15, 18 kids who are clearly GOOD parents I cheer.

Someone has to balance things out.

Really, 90% of our kids come from---
single parent homes.
one or both adults clearly not giving a crap about the kid ("MY life is important! I gotta be happy!")
Folks who gave birth to these children for all the wrong reasons (# 1 is to get their BF to marry them, #2 is to be a grown up).
Honestly, that seems to be more of an american problem. I see that a lot with marriages since I work a lot with soldiers. It looks like a lot of the young guys get married as soon as they gratuate just so they can move out from their parents or be grown up or whatever other reasons. I know so many people that have their second or third marriage going on by the time they hit 25. In Germany you have the other extreme. If you marry at age 25 you are a minority.

I personally think that you can't make it work when you do it for the wrong reasons. It's even worse when you have kids because of the wrong reasons because you screw up the kids life as well.
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I know so many people that have their second or third marriage going on by the time they hit 25.


I used to date a guy who is now 27 years old and on his 3rd marriage since turning 21... His child from his last marriage is being raised by his parents ( his ex-wife remarried and had another child, she no longer wanted the little boy) and he only gets him when he wants "to play house". It kills me, I just want to beat him in the head and tell him to grow up. soapboxrant
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chea
Jan 23 2009, 10:24 PM
schnuppi
Jan 23 2009, 09:50 PM
EssieLou
Jan 23 2009, 09:42 PM
To jump around....
I see so many really really REALLY bad parents that when articles are posted about families having 13, 15, 18 kids who are clearly GOOD parents I cheer.

Someone has to balance things out.

Really, 90% of our kids come from---
single parent homes.
one or both adults clearly not giving a crap about the kid ("MY life is important! I gotta be happy!")
Folks who gave birth to these children for all the wrong reasons (# 1 is to get their BF to marry them, #2 is to be a grown up).
Honestly, that seems to be more of an american problem. I see that a lot with marriages since I work a lot with soldiers. It looks like a lot of the young guys get married as soon as they gratuate just so they can move out from their parents or be grown up or whatever other reasons. I know so many people that have their second or third marriage going on by the time they hit 25. In Germany you have the other extreme. If you marry at age 25 you are a minority.

I personally think that you can't make it work when you do it for the wrong reasons. It's even worse when you have kids because of the wrong reasons because you screw up the kids life as well.
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I know so many people that have their second or third marriage going on by the time they hit 25.


I used to date a guy who is now 27 years old and on his 3rd marriage since turning 21... His child from his last marriage is being raised by his parents ( his ex-wife remarried and had another child, she no longer wanted the little boy) and he only gets him when he wants "to play house". It kills me, I just want to beat him in the head and tell him to grow up. soapboxrant
Yep, I have that urge every other day too!
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Yep, he needs a 2X4 upside the head!

But the mother? RRthud She's remarried and has another child and doesn't want the little boy anymore?!? WTF?!? You have to believe he is going to be better of without her though RRCrazy

Thank God for his grandparents!
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Jan 23 2009, 10:45 PM
Yep, he needs a 2X4 upside the head!

But the mother? RRthud She's remarried and has another child and doesn't want the little boy anymore?!? WTF?!? You have to believe he is going to be better of without her though RRCrazy

Thank God for his grandparents!
I have no respect for the mother either... she divorced him to marry one of his best friends and then got pregnant and the little boy was no longer a issue to her. But then you have to understand that out of the 3 marriages this "man" has had, two of them have been to 17 year olds, the ex-wife was in what I guess you could call foster care when she got pregnant on purpose so he would marry her so she could get out... He used to tell me alot about how he just couldn't find the "one"... I eventually told him, after you have gone through that many marriages that fast....... maybe it's you and the girls you pick.
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I have actually sat in on care plans where parents told kids they didn't want them and wished they never had them.

Or parents who drop them off and refuse to come back to get them.

I've seen mothers turn their kids over to foster care because "They had a new man and he didn't want to be around another man's kids."

Seriously
too many of the wrong folks are having kids.
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Jan 23 2009, 11:56 PM
I have actually sat in on care plans where parents told kids they didn't want them and wished they never had them.

Or parents who drop them off and refuse to come back to get them.

I've seen mothers turn their kids over to foster care because "They had a new man and he didn't want to be around another man's kids."

Seriously
too many of the wrong folks are having kids.
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I've seen mothers turn their kids over to foster care because "They had a new man and he didn't want to be around another man's kids."



Sometimes I wonder though, if that isn't better than the alternative... A friend of mine was made to eat outside rain or shine by her mother, because her mother remarried a man who didn't want my friend to eat at the table with him or his kids, so her mother did it... My friend said the only good part was that she was to young to understand at the time and thought it was fun that she got to have picnics all the time....

Eventually her mother dropped her off at her aunt and uncles one day... and just didn't come back.. she stayed with her dad until her mother got divorced and wanted her to move back in...
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It really makes me sick to hear stuff like that! I just can't believe that parents can do that to their kids executioner But I also wonder sometimes if the kids aren't better off sometimes when they are away from their parents
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