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Fears and phobias
Topic Started: Apr 11 2005, 10:00 AM (253 Views)
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We all know our kids have them, but do you have fears and phobias too?
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I have a phobia of snaes. It started when I was a child, and was watching a show with a Boa Constrictor in. The snake wrapped itself around the guys neck and stragled him. Took 6 big blokes to get the snake off him. Needless to say, that was the end of the show, and the start of my fear. :(
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I have lots of them.

Fear of the dark, I know, stupid but aren't most fears. If I go into a room and the light's off I close my eyes until I put the light on.

Fear of death, this keeps me awake more then anything. What if I die while my children still need me, what if they don't remember me. The thought of being put in the ground and being left in a graveyard all alone with 'dead' people scares me senseless.

My biggest fear if you like is my imagination. I can conjure up more terrifying things in my head then could ever happen. I have a fear of closing the bathroom window on a nighttime as I always expect someone to grab me from outside. I watch a scary film and imagine things are in my house.

I guess I'm just a complete basket case really :lol:
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No, not a basket case. I hate closing the windows at night too, and if I have to go and take the rubbish out to the bin, OMG :wacko:

I am also hopeless with horror movies, which is why I don't watch them :lol:
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OMG Sandra, we sound so alike.

I am afraid of the dark and also have this morbid fear of death that keeps me awake at night too. Same reasons as you stated I think but my dad died when I was a child and I think that preys on my mind too.
I have a very vivid imagination and I think it's because of this that I actually make myself ill worrying that I have something wrong with me. It's not hypochondria but it is horrid and very hard to live with.


I also have a fear of confrontation. I hate having to answer the door or the phone and have often let it ring if I am the only one in the house. It's got better though, years ago I used to run and hide in a cupboard and put my fingers in my ears when the door went. Thankfully I don't do that any more but I still have problems. Stems from my relationship with my mother I think and the fear that one day I'll open the door and she might be there.

Spiders too. I'm terrified of spiders and am really lucky to have a really good hubby who comes to my rescue when spiders are around.


So no Sandra you're not mad, well if you are then I am too :P
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Mandy, it's not surprising with everything going on in your life that you want to run and hide. I feel like that whenever James has a bad day! But in our house, if the door bell goes, it gives me someone to snap at! :huh:
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Thanks Sam, the thing is that although I don't like the phone I do have a lot to say. Often I get Mark to make the phonecall and then get really cross because he doesn't say what I want him to.

Face to face I am much better and also when I get over the initial introductions on the phone. It's not often that people get the better of me in a two way conversation.

Having been a chair of governors and having done a few talks about living with autism I have the ability to make people think I oooze confidence. I don't think I do, although saying that a councellor once told me that the most confident people in the world are usually the ones who think they aren't, so you never know do you.
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On the confidence building course I'm doing at the moment we're learning all about different methods of appearing confident. The tutor says that there's no such thing as a confident person just that some people are better at hiding their lack of it then others.
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i also have a fear of death i see myself in my coffin i wake up and im buried alive or im being cremated and there just putting me into burn and i wake up and im being burnt to death !! also im an excellent swimmer i was in competitions and allsorts but i have a fear of the water often i picture myself in the water and then someone starts to cover the pool over and they dont see me and im pinned under the water drowning ,before i go swimming with the kids i have palpatations hot sweats and knightmares but i force myself to go ,funny how i dont have a fear of the sea though isnt it ??
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I'm not confident in deep water. I can swim but I tend to panic if I know my feet won't reach the floor. I do aqua twice a week and I love it, but I always stay down the shallower end of the pool.



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i dont like confrontation at all,if im having a row i feel im going to end up crying which i dont want to do!

i also do not like people turning up unannounced especially when they stay for hours,i get all panicky and want them to go,im allright if i know they are coming though.

oh yeah i do not like people who bring their kids round and let them run wild,my steve has probs so im not being horrible to kids its just when the mothers just sit there while their kids are running up and down the stairs wrecking the place and they just leave without offering to tidy up and when they go im so stressed,this is fresh in my mind as it happened today,god i was fuming!!
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I know what you mean Hev. Luckily, my 2 are big enough to tidy the mess up themselves. When their mum gets ready to leave, I shout up, "It's time to tidy up......you're going home in a minute!"

That gives the parent a nudge to sort their kids out, without being rude! :lol:
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Thats a good idea Sam, very tactful.


I'm not over my dental phobia by a long shot, but I have had all my treatment done so I must be moving forward. Has anyone noticed there don't seem to be as many wasps this year, not that I'm complaining of course as I hate the damn things.

Does anyone else have any phobias to add here?
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Not sure what mine is, it's kind of claustrophobic but not. I could quite easily be put in a small cupboard but I am scared to death to go down the tubes at swimming pools in case I get stuck and drown, LOL. I can't have anything over my face because I feel like I am going to suffocate, when they gave me gas and air with Lee I told them I would be sick but they put the thing on my face anyways, and yes I vomited all over them. If I am on a crowded train, bus etc I feel faint just looking at it, before I get on.

I don't have a fear of dying, but I do have a fear of being suffocated or drowning. It turns up in my dreams all the time. Weird, because I used to swim for my county and could hold my breath under water longer than anyone at my club. Still can. I think its more about the control, really don't know what to call it.

Things that flap also freak me out, if they come near my face I scream. Not just birds, butterflies, moths, anything with that flapping movement. I had a bird somehow get in this house not so long ago, it was fluttering round my bathroom, I was in tears just having to go in the room (under a thick duvet!!) and open the window for him to get out.

Other than that nothing really, I used to keep snakes myself, and I have held a tarantula so spiders don't bother me.

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OOOO....Don't say Spider....too scary!

Has anyone noticed there seem to be loads of bloody big spiders around at the moment. I was doing some stomach crunches the other day so I was lying on the floor and this great big hary spider crawled out from under the sofa. I've never moved so fast. I'm lucky though as I have super dog here and he treads on the with his paws.
Unfortunately he then has to finish the spider off by eating it :unsure:
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