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Lifestyle challenge
Topic Started: Jun 27 2006, 08:28 PM (114 Views)
:Elvira
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Roxy is wanting to do the Lifestyle challenge this year, for anyone who doesn't know what it is, groups of young people do things for their local community over the summer holidays, this can include cleaning up the local area, helping neighbours with shopping, entertaining at an old peoples home etc.

It's all in a good cause and really gets the kids involved in helping others however I'm not too sure it will be a good thing for Roxanne. Although they can do as much or as little work as they're able it is expected that they do at least a few hours a week, this would be okay if it was just a one off but over six weeks I don't think she'll go the distance. I've seen it happen before with other things, school projects, reading schemes etc, she starts off fired up and full of good intentions then it ends up with me having to nag her to put the minimal amount of effort into it. I really don't want to discourage her from doing it but I don't believe she has the attention span needed for something like this. On top of that of course it will take up a lot of time in the holidays which will put restrictions on the rest of the family and although it doesn't bother me I think it might be a bit unfair on Brandon if we're spending all the time organising this.

Term time is such a stressful time for us and I like to use the holidays to enable us all to just kick back and relax but I know if she does this then it will be stress right through. :cry:
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I always thought that when the girls grew into their teens, my life would be easier.....oh, how wrong was I! If there isnt an argument brewing then I'm being asked to ferry them here there and everywhere. Then theres the constant worry over what they are doing, are they safe. Then theres being asked to help with a massive project at 10pm when its due in the next day.

You've got a busy time ahead, but hopefully your worst fears wont be realised. I hope it goes well for her anyway. You just have to sit back and let her find out for herself. xx
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I see how you feel Sandra, I feel it myself when the boys decide they MUST do something...All that extra work involved!!

But......Being the age she is if she doesn't do it it will be your fault, you know that. If you're worried isn't there any way she can contribute in a way that means less hours and supervision?
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There are a couple of old folks home near to us and she said that she wants to go and sing and entertain them, I don't mind her doing this at all but as with other things with her the idea is much more appealing then the doing...yikes I'm not explaining myself very well here am I!

If she could organise herself and go one day a week with whoever she decides to do it with them I've no problem supervising them (they have to have an adult supervisor) and even help with the planning, consent etc. BUT she doesn't do anything without a boot up her backside and the first week she'll be really good organising everything then it will rapidly go downhill with me asking her if she's got everything prepared for the following week and her answering not yet, or I'll do it later and before we know it the week will have passed and she won't be ready at all. They have to keep extensive log books and keep details of everything they do, again this will fall to me to keep reminding her. I'd just hate to see her start it and then have to drop out because she can't cope with the level of effort she'll need to put in.

Like I said before, I also have Brandon to consider, he'll want days out and my time during the holidays, he gets to do very little during term time unlike Roxy who has loads going on, yes I know she's older and he'll get his turn but you can't explain that to a six year old can you. I also have Scarlett to see to and hubby won't get more then a week off in the hols so it will be me who will have to split myself in every direction (nothing new there :lol: )

Of course if she does decide to go ahead and do it them I'll let her but don't be suprised if I end up a quivering wreck come September. CZY
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