Temple of Kraden News:
So, if any of you have talked to me during the last couple of weeks, you know that I'm planning on moving to Washington sometime around August with Steve and ZephiraZ. Right now everything is in the planning stages, so nothing is set in stone yet. Zephi's scouting apartments, while me and Steve try to figure out how to tell our families without being killed in the process. If everything goes according to plan, I'll be out of Louisiana forever!
Comment by Hinoa, Jan 23 2011, 01:55 PM
At this point (and this goes for Steve as well), with your family situation, you should say something to the effect of "I need my space, and I'm an adult, and your opinion really isn't going to change my mind." But politely.
Comment by The Steve of Steves, Jan 23 2011, 01:58 PM
That's the problem. Both of our families are such that nothing we say on the matter will be perceived as "polite", so yeah.
Comment by Hinoa, Jan 23 2011, 02:15 PM
Okay, call me a hopeless optimist, but I'm the kind of person who believes that humanity really aren't that big of dicks, and that if you play your cards right, you can have everyone be reasonable about this. They're your family, and they're *supposed* to love you (even if they have a really [radio edit]ing weird way of showing it). Say you'll keep in touch, at least, and visit them every so often. Unless you want to do the whole "disown your family" thing...
Tony Soprano, Jan 23 2011, 02:17 PM
As bad as you guys say your family situations are, and as good of friends you three might be online, I am of the opinion that moving in with two people that you only know over the internet is horribly misguided and has a high chance of catastorphic failure, just because the extent of your association with each other is the fact that you get along over Skype/Temple/MSN and have a few common interests. And assuming it does piss off your family, where the hell do you go if it does fail spectacularly? You're planning to relocate yourselves all the way across the country and room with two people that you have never met offline. You and STeve could clash horribly, and Zeph could piss both of you off. Maybe Steve snores. Maybe you're retarded. Maybe you guys just have personalities that won't mesh well. Just because you're good friends online doesn't mean that you'll be good roommates for each other. And what are you going to do long term? Work part time jobs and live paycheck to paycheck? Going to go to school somewhere?
Not trying to be a downer here, but bleh. These are all things that need to be considered before you completely uproot your life. I almost did something simliar to what you're considering, and looking back, I am damn glad I didn't. I have a fair amount of respect for the three of you and I think you're fairly cool people, so I decided to be "that guy" who points out the shit that could go wrong because I don't think that should be overlooked in your frenzy of "[radio edit] [radio edit] [radio edit] my parents suck i need to get the [radio edit] out". If I didn't, well, I wouldn't type up this [radio edit]ing novel, you know?
If you do try it out, I wish you the best of luck and hope it works out. Just thought you should consider all of that before you just up and left.
Comment by Shads_ ♥LoveWithYou, Jan 23 2011, 02:22 PM
I gotta agree with Jake here. If you're going to completely change everything in your life at least have some sort of backup plan in case it fails or something. Nothing goes absolutely smooth, and this sounds like a fragile plan as a means to achieve a fragile goal. I'm of the opinion that the three of you should secure some sort of income or big load of money to fall back on.
But hey, best of luck, and I really hope you all have fun together.
Comment by Will, Jan 23 2011, 02:27 PM
First of all, thank you for your concern. You've addressed issues that I (and probably Steve and Zephi, too) have been thinking about. I'm aware that this could be a great experience, or a disaster, as are they. My primary reason for going to Washington, however is not because of my family, but because of improved educational and employment opportunities, so I would end up there anyway. Steve's looking to go back to school, and Zephi already lives out there. As for what will happen if we clash: Between work and school, I won't be home much and Zephi can always go to her parent's house. Again, thank you for your concern, and I intend to keep what you've said in mind for the next few months.
Comment by HyrulianJedi, Jan 23 2011, 03:32 PM
Issues aren't just about being home, though. In fact, not being home together can sometimes make issues worse. I learned the hard way that just because you like hanging around with someone does not mean you would like living with them (also applies to working with them, but that's another topic). Maybe you are obsessive about keeping things organized, and they have a very casual attitude towards putting things away (an organized mess, if you will). Not an issue for bedrooms, obviously, since those are typically personal, but in other rooms, such as bathrooms, or kitchens, it can come up frequently.
Joint efforts, such as cooking, washing dishes, or cleaning aforementioned common areas can also be a problem, if one person doesn't contribute as much as the others do. Or if someone brings people over, maybe to just hang out, or maybe for a party. These can also cause issues that need resolving.
Just stuff to think about in addition to Were's.
Comment by Will, Jan 23 2011, 10:57 PM
@Shadow: The reason me and Steve are waiting till August to move is so we can get a decent amount of money in our bank accounts so we have enough to get by until we get jobs.
@HJ: I agree that those things could present an issue. We all have copies of a typical roommate agreement that addresses such things as cleanliness and personal space. I know it isn't a perfect solution, but I feel it will work in our case.
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